I’ve heard that there are people who like to clean and their house is clean! I have even met them, but I am not one of them! I mean is it nice to have a clean house, hell yes! But I just can’t do it!
I would rather sit and play with the kids, or get out of the house then fold laundry or wash dishes! Or its the clean when they sleep, but I snuggle the baby and go to bed when they do so that is out of the question! I try to involve the toddler in the cleaning as much as possible but she would just rather play in the water or go outside since the weather is nice, and well guess what so would I!
When we have company we quick clean! AKA shove everything in the bedroom and do what we can to make it look decent! I am an avid believer in we live here and so do two kids so guess what my floor will be messing, and toys will be every where. If it bugs someone they can clean it!
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My House is a Mess and I’m a Stay at Home Mom
I have been home for 3 years now and at first not being able to have everything done stressed me out. I would be so worried about what Luke would think when he got home and I didn’t want him to be mad or disappointed. He was amazing and would tell me I did the most important thing, I took care of our baby. It took me months to realize he was right! Raising her was the most important thing, and the house work would always be there!
Then came Delta and I was so busy that the house work really took a back burner. I could cook, but the kitchen would be a mess or I could wash laundry, but not fold it. It’s been almost a year of having two kids and it hasn’t got any better! My house is a disaster! There is clean laundry in like 4 different baskets, but hey it’s clean!
That’s more then I can say for myself! I’m excited if I can get a shower twice a week and Adella is always in it with me. Luke one day kissed my head before heading to work and said “you’re hair is so pretty” I said “yeah it’s called clean” I was serious and a little sad about it.
Being a Good Mom Doesn’t Mean Your House is Spotless
I can say no matter how terrible of a housekeeper I am, I’m a damn good mom and to me and Luke that is what matters most. The kids won’t remember the sink of dishes I forgot to wash or that I dug their clothes for the day out of a laundry basket, but they will remember playing in buckets of water all morning or running through the sprinkler instead of taking a bath (yeah I’ve done both of those)!
I love playing with the kids and exploring new things much more then I feel the need to clean anything! Thankfully Luke agrees the family makes the mess the cleans the mess and he has no issues with helping with the house work. He tends to speed clean if the kids and I go some where because it is so much easier to clean without the kids around!
I will say my house is by no mean gross, it is just cluttered and lived in! I run the dishwasher every day and the laundry but I don’t spend hours cleaning or stress over everything being perfect. And let me tell you it was like a weight lifted when I realized my house doesn’t need to be perfect for me to be a good mom. It was freeing and let me be a better more involved mom to my girls!
It’s Saturday morning and Luke is mowing, Delta is napping and Adella is watching a movie waiting to help daddy mow. My house isn’t clean and I’ve been sick. I don’t plan on cleaning it up any time soon either! HAHA
I will share I have found that being organized does help me stay on top of things so they don’t get totally out of control and this is how I do it. This home organizer helps me keep everything in order and not all scrambled in my head!
It took me a long to be okay with my house being a mess, but sometimes you just gotta lower those expectations!!!
I believe sharing with other moms that my house isn’t perfect and that it doesn’t have to be can be a relief! So share below, what in your house isn’t perfect?
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